You’ve met this amazing guy, starts off saying that he is lucky to have met you. Says all the right things, you start telling your friends that he could be the one! haha (btw every guy that I’m into feels to be the one at this stage:) You eventually go out on your first date, he insists on paying for the meal, conversations flowing… so too the 4th glass of gin and tonic to your head. And now because you don’t want the night to end, you say something silly like “we can go over to my place” In some weird way you start to feel like you the lucky one. Now, this is when we make our first mistake, and even bigger mistake you go and tell him this!
Needles to mention, this “amazing guy” has stopped replying to my texts. I’ve been getting through quiet easy with the modern dating culture to a point where I classified myself an “expert” on it:) I admit though that I did not see this one coming at all, yea! I have no problem if he lost interest for whatever the reason may be or even if he was playing me all along, but for me, the right thing to do was to give closure. With a certain amount of investment, requires an explanation.
Quite intriguing how you can mold your career & social life to suit your needs but the one thing that matters most has no formula…
You can quote me on that
I know that feeling. It makes you nauseous deep down in your gut…
Especially when they’re the ones saying you have this strong connection.
Makes you feel used. And as a strong independent person, you wonder how you didn’t see that coming…
She does the same. Says all the things she’ll do and all the things she loves about you. Then suddenly those things are the things she can no longer tolerate
Hi hun. I read your blog. Here is my feedback from the experience that i have encountered over the years. Men are hunters and we as women are natural givers and we all fall into the trap of giving our all to men who say the right things. One thing that I have found guidance in is the Steve Harvey Book. Cliche i know. But it cleared up a lot of questions and doubts in myself. I even went into a phase where men could even smell the desperation in my expression. Now granted i am no expert in the dating department. One thing i have learnt is to leave a mark on a man. As i said in the beginning men are hunters and like an animal they love the thrill of a challenge. And that is how a woman should be. Reveal a bit so men gets intrigued to want more. A mark left like that, no other woman can replace. Make the hunt exciting at every turn.
Very thought provoking and honest. That guy doesnt deserve you. I hope you continue to write about your interesting life my wonderful friend. 🙂
Take things slower…become friends first.
I made the huge mistake of rushing so fast, I never even knew what was right in front of me.
Some say wisdom comes with age, I’m not so sure about that…but I have learned a heck of a lot over time.
Cheslyn