One thing I know for sure, expectations is a killer in all types of relationships. Not to say that we should not have any, I doubt that a relationship will be able to function without it.

The safest measure to take is probably to lower one’s expectation. Someone promises to call you back in a few minutes, you give them about an hour. If they happen to keep their word, guess what they’ve now just exceeded your expectations! Managing expectations goes both ways. I like to live by the concept, “under promise, over deliver”. Don’t make promises you cant or don’t care that much to keep. But my challenge is more when I’m holding the expectations, as I have the most to lose. It’s easier when I’m the one making the promises. 

I believe that having expectations in someone should be revaluated from time to time. People tend to do things on how they feel. Someone I’m dating, the beginning stages are normally the best, because the feelings are new and exciting. What happens when the person feels differently, do I expect the same treatment as in the beginning, or do I reassess the situation ? The person is no longer willing to give me what they once did. Expect what people are only willing to give, you will be happier because of it.